5 Tips for making going back to work easier


If you follow my Twitter, you may have seen that I went back to work full time this week just 6 weeks after Bean was born. The short period of maternity leave was due to a number of factors, including the fact that we rely on my income to run the house and that I had only recently started back at work after being away on maternity leave with Bo.

I have enjoyed being back at work - I enjoy my job, it gives me a sense of achievement and the social interaction that I didn't get when I was a stay at home mum last year. However, I must admit that it has been a little nerve wracking - not to mention guilty inducing - going back when Bean is so young and also leaving my husband with two young children.

There are a few things that I have found help me feel better about being away from my family for the majority of the day, especially in the first couple of days when I wasn't quite sure how we would handle our new way of life. So I thought I would share them with you all, in case you are going through a similar time yourself.

1. Keep in regular contact with the care giver.
Whether this is your partner, parent or a nursery, staying in contact with the care giver who has your children during the day and asking for regular updates on their progress, will help to put your mind at rest. Even better, get them to send over photographs of things that your children do throughout the day.

Granted, they might be having a bit of a difficult day and your little ones might be running them ragged but just hearing that everyone is alive and well can really help you to relax.

2. Turn off your phone from when you get home to when they go to bed each night.
Use the time in the evenings to concentrate on spending as much time as you can with them - whether that time is spent cuddling up together or running round the house wildly. By turning off your phone, this will help you concentrate on spending time with them and take away the distraction of your screen lighting up whenever you get a text.

Although you may be tired from the day at work, the quality time you spend with them - even if it is only a few minutes worth - will help stop you feeling like a bad parent and keep you feeling connected to your children.

3. Put a photograph of your children in your office.
Whether you share a large office with other members of staff, or have an office of your own, putting a photograph of your children around the area that you work in acts as a reminder of why you are working.

It also helps to keep you linked to the family - you are not a separate entity when you are at work, you are still part of the family but in a different building.

4. Start back on a date half way through the week.
By doing this it means that you will only be working for a couple of days during your first week back, instead of a full week - easing you more gently into the idea of being away from your family and giving you the chance to find your feet as you get back into the world of work.

It also has the same benefits for your children - giving them a taster of what is to come, but easing them in slightly more than if you immediately started back for a full week.

5. Give yourself something to look forward to.
Whether its by booking a family holiday for later on in the year, or just planning something fun to do with the kids at the weekend - give yourself a family event to look forward to. For me, this gave me some guaranteed family time to look forward to, helping me to feel better about being away from them.

These are just a few of the things that I found helped me to overcome the guilt of going back to work after having my second child.

Did you find anything in particular that helped you in the transition from being at home to going back to work? If so, please share it below!

The Need for Positivity

 
During my time writing on this blog, I have prided myself on sharing my story honestly - giving you all of the details, including the good, the bad and the ugly. In fact, only the other week, I chose to share the birth story of baby Bean which was, in short, not pleasant at all and would not be something that I would want to read if I was expecting a child myself (this has now been removed from the blog as a result of some serious second thoughts on my part).

Since the arrival of Bean, it has caught me by surprise how hard I have found it to come to terms with the renewed loss of my time, the upheaval to life and the sleep deprivation that is in full swing again. Don't get me wrong, we adore Bean and are slowly getting to grips with handling two children instead of one (including one incredibly colic-y baby) but these past few weeks have definitely required a positive outlook and lots of self care to keep ourselves sane and the children happy.

During this time, I have noticed that my blog posts - although honest - have had a tendency to air on the negative side, sharing the less pleasant things about being a parent of a newborn and bringing a negative vibe to the blog. 

In a similar way, when I was pregnant with Bean and found myself worrying about how we were going to cope with two children, I scouted around for blog posts which would show me the experiences and opinions of other parents of multiple children. A lot of these were brutally honest, sharing the bad things as well as the good, which actually ended up with me worrying more and more, the more I read.

As I have mentioned previously in the blog, I suffer with nerves, and one of the things I have come to realise over the past week or two is that, in order for me to do the best job I can possibly do as a parent, I need to think positively and remain confident in myself and my decisions. Therefore, in order to do that, I cannot bog myself down with stories about the difficulties of being a parent and I definitely should not be sharing similar stories on my own blog.

Instead, I am choosing to make 2017 a year of positivity, in which I acknowledge the difficulties that a parent can face without allowing myself to become consumed by them - either by finding ways to solve the issue or motivating myself (and others) to get through them. I greatly admire all of those parents who choose to share those difficult times with their readers and give an accurate representation of life with children, but for me that can prove just a bit too much.

You are very welcome to join me in my journey through positivity over the following year - if you know any techniques for keeping yourself feeling positive or if you have any favourite motivational and inspiring quotes about parenting or life in general, please feel free to send them over to me!

I am thoroughly looking forward to promoting positive thinking in myself and others over the next year - I am hoping it will really enhance my life and help to keep us going as a (now slightly bigger) family as the chaos of having a young baby continues. If I can help others feel more positive and see the brighter side of life along the way, then that's even better.

I have shared this post on the following lovely linkies:
Blogger Club UK on the Mudpie Fridays blog.
PoCoLo on the Morgan's Mileu blog.
FortheloveofBLOG on the A Mum Track Mind blog.

New Years Resolutions - 2017



It's nearly 2017, a New Year, a fresh chance to make a change in your life (though lets face it, you could do it at any point of the year really) and improve your quality of living.

I am not normally one for making New Years Resolutions - being rubbish at sticking to them generally means I don't see the point in actually making them in the first place. However, this year I have decided that I would like to make some changes to my life, especially as we have just had a big change to the family dynamics and are about to have a big change when I go back to work in a few days time.

So here are my three New Years Resolutions for 2017.


Spend more time concentrating on living life and enjoying time with my family.
I don't know about you but I am terrible for browsing on my phone or tablet whenever I get a chance and this tends to include when I'm spending time with my family. However, now that Bean has come along, I have realised that I am browsing and looking at my phone when I could be spending quality time with Bo or Bee. 

That, combined with the fact that my spare time has been significantly reduced again now there is a newborn in the family has made me resolve to restrict using my tablet or phone to times when both children are either asleep or otherwise entertained and when I am not spending quality time with my husband. I know that this may result in me having very little time for social media etc, but ultimately my family is what is important and I really want to make sure that I maintain and develop strong bonds with both children, especially as I am going back to full time work soon.


Lose the baby weight and tone up again.
Although the change in my body has not been quite as dramatic as when I had my firstborn (I outgrew all of my trousers and had, literally, nothing to wear), I must admit I am struggling for clothes that fit at the moment. 

Therefore, I have resolved that I would like to drop the baby weight and start toning up my stomach again - mainly just by eating reasonably healthy food and doing some much needed exercise. At the moment I am unsure what kind of exercise I will be starting - as I used to dance when I was younger - but I just need to generally introduce some more exercise into my life, especially as my full time job will be sitting at an office desk.


Get a hobby.
I know what you're thinking - isn't blogging a hobby? Well, you're right, it is, but I have found that it tends to get a little difficult to find topics to blog about when you don't do anything else. I need something that I can relax and enjoy doing in my spare time, something that makes me more of a person, that I can talk about with other people and that adds daily interest to my life.

However, finding a new hobby may be easier said than done. I have been hunting for something that I enjoy doing in my spare time for a long time and, so far, have not succeeded in finding anything. This year I would like to keep on looking for something additional that I enjoy doing, and perhaps even share it on here.


So those are my three New Years Resolutions for 2017. Do you have any New Years Resolutions at all?

Also, if you have any tips on how to find a hobby, or even have some suggestions on what hobby I could take up, please let me know - I would love to hear them!

Welcome to the world...

 
We are very happy to announce the arrival of a new family member, aka Bean.

His arrival into the world didn't exactly go smoothly (something that I may or may not share in more detail in the future, I have yet to decide) and we are currently in the process of trying to remember everything that is to be remembered about looking after a newborn. At the same time, we are still getting to grips with looking after two children under two and have gone into what can only be described as "hibernation mode" over the past couple of weeks.

I am so grateful for the time that we get to spend together as a family, supporting each other in this new stage of our lives and helping each other through the sleepless days and nights. It may not be as big an upheaval as the arrival of our firstborn but it has been an upheaval all the same, and that support has been essential. 

As for Bo, she has been a wonderful big sister - expressing concern when her little brother cries, rocking his Moses basket (sometimes a little too vigorously) and helping me put his cream on after a bath. She has found it a little difficult to come to terms with sharing the limelight but we are trying to ensure that we spend as much one on one time with her as possible and have been asking visiting family members to do the same.

So now that we have our new family member (and our little family isn't so little anymore) I am looking forward to celebrating the upcoming Christmas period, and then seeing what exciting things 2017 has in store for us. I am hoping that the new year will be a slightly calmer one than the past two, giving us a chance to grow closer as a family, get used to our new roles as the parents of two children, and generally sit back and enjoy life without changing too much. 

Sometimes, you just need that bit of a break to collect yourself and recuperate - and that is what I plan to do. 

I have linked this post on the following lovely linkies:
Blogger Club U.K. on the Mudpie Fridays blog.
PoCoLo on the Morgan's Mileu blog.

The Worries of Having a Second Baby


You would have thought that, when you give birth for the second, third or maybe even fourth time, it would be a much calmer, prepared affair because you are a pro now - you've done it all before and if you could do it the first time you can do it again - right? 

Wrong.

Or at least for me that is.

I am expecting the arrival of my second child any day now and I am perhaps feeling even more nervous than I was the first time.
 
I'm nervous because, rather than being a tad oblivious and only being able to guess what labour will be like, I now know what to expect. Granted, I have been able to stock up on paracetamol so that I don't have to rely on a Lemsip to get me through the initial stages like I did the first time, but I am fully aware of the pain I am about to go through and the struggle to get myself back to feeling normal in the weeks after.

Of course, I am also getting excited for the new addition to our family and looking forward to seeing the bond between Bo and her new brother grow over the upcoming years. But so far, and rather ashamedly, I must admit the nerves have been overpowering the excitement.

What will it be like introducing a new baby to the family?

What if Bo feels pushed out by this new baby and doesn't feel as loved?

How do I make sure that both children are happy and well and spend time with my husband and keep the house looking half presentable and keep my career rolling?

What if this, plus the stress of going back to work in a few months time, edges me that bit closer to the oh so dreaded postpartum depression?

There are so many worries whirling round in my head at this moment in time that I felt I just had to get them down in writing. Which, after all, is the purpose of this blog - is it not?

So I am also going to apologise for this being such a downer of a post - I don't like to write negative posts, in fact I prefer to concentrate on the more positive things in life, but sometimes you just need to get it all out, write it all down and lay yourself bare.

Do you know what I mean?

Have any of you that have had more than one pregnancy found the same thing?

Protecting my children and internet security

A niggling worry in the back of my mind has meant that there haven't been many blog posts on the Me, Bee and Bo blog as of late. In fact, it has resulted in my Twitter account being closed down for a small period of time as well as the other social media outlets linked to this blog.

I have been worried about protecting the identity of my children, internet security and whether I am comfortable with the amount of information I have been sharing about my family on the internet. And, in line with what I have always said, the moment that you aren't quite comfortable with what you are sharing on the internet, you should stop. 

Which is what I did.

But I missed this blog, the memories and the community around it. I have put a lot of work in to this blog over the past couple of years and I missed the creative outlet. I even tried to start a new blog with the idea of keeping it completely anonymous but something inside me just didn't connect with it, so it didn't go far.

So, after a fair bit of "soul searching" and thinking about what I was actually comfortable with sharing - I'm back and so is the blog.

I'm not saying that that slightly niggling worry has gone away - it is definitely still there - but, instead of shutting everything down altogether, I am going to be taking steps to ensure that my children's identity is kept safe whether that is by restricting the types of images that will be posted on the blog, or by regularly ensuring there is no connection between this blog and our real names or address.

I know that it is going to be a juggling match between trying to protect my family and making sure that the blog content doesn't go stale and disconnected, but I feel that this is the best option at this time.

On a positive note, the Twitter account has been opened again and can be accessed here. Feel free to visit and send me a cheeky Tweet - it's a bit quiet starting a Twitter account from scratch!

I have added to this post to the following lovely linkies:
- Pick'n'Mix Fridays on the A Cornish Mum blog
- Brilliant Blog Posts on the Honest Mum blog.

Home Wishlist - Cute, Quirky and a Little Crazy


I have been loving everything cute, quirky or just that little bit crazy over the past few weeks. If you follow my Twitter you will know that I have found myself a nice Lego phone case (and intend to start building things on the back of it at some point!) and I adore all things cat related.

So, during my explorations to find as many cute and quirky things to add to my home as possible, I thought I would put together a few of my favourites to show you all.

I don't know about you but this is the perfect planter for me. Because it waters itself. Yes, I admit it, I am terrible at watering plants and usually end up killing them off. So a self watering planter is exactly what I need in order to grace my house with the scent of lovely flowers whilst not having to remember to water them everyday! That and the panda is super cute!

I chose this one mainly with Bo in mind, as I don't actually know what else I would do with a hand puppet! I love the bright colours and his cute little face, and hand puppets are brilliant for interacting with children as you can react to what they do and make it seem like they are holding a real conversation.

I know the weather in the UK hasn't exactly been the glorious Summer that we have all been hoping for lately, but we are in prime holiday going time and I thought that this little sipper cup would be perfect to sip from whilst sitting by the pool (where we could actually spend some time outdoors without being rained on!). Either that or you could do what I plan to do and carry it around at home and dream of what those holidays could be like.

This cute, smiley cat plays right into my "cat lady" ways. I love his quirky little face and have the perfect little place lined up for him on my bedroom window sill.

Who doesn't love a doorstop? I love the range of soft animal doorstops that have been floating around recently and Eddie is a particularly cute one. I find that doorstops are a wonderful way of stopping Bo from messing with the doors in our house, as they are too heavy for her to lift!

Kittens and tea! Let me say that again... kittens and tea! I mean come on. Enough said.

I love the simplicity of this pillowcase set and the fact it looks really cute at the same time. Especially as we tend to end up with Bo in our bed when she's sleeping particularly badly and we about to be joined by another one, I think the family aspect of this really hit home for me.

Which is your favourite of the items above? Do you like having cute and quirky things around your house or do you feel they look a little tacky? What has been your favourite addition to your home over the past few months?

I have added this post to the following wonderful linkies:
- PoCoLo at the Life at 139a blog.